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Connie from Nashville, TN asks...

Love Our Enemies?

Dear Junebug: How do we handle those who have really hurt us, stolen from us, ruined our reputations, abandoned us and/or continue to harm us? I know that we shouldn't wish them harm even though we want to see justice. Do we pray for them or just pray that God help us to just let it go and let God handle the situation? In Psalms, David prayed evil, horrible things towards his enemies.

Posted in Broken Relationships on Thu, Aug 19th 2010

Pleases Him for You to Love Them!

Dear Connie:

I am currently memorizing Scripture and I purposely picked this Scripture in Luke which contains this verse, “… Love your enemies. Do good to those who hate you. Bless those who curse you. And pray for those who spitefully use you” ( Luke 6:27-28).  And the reason is, I too have people who I have totally or completely trusted who have betrayed or hurt me in devastating ways. I have found comfort in the following three truths:

First and foremost, I had to learn to forgive. It was a long process and certainly did not happen overnight. I prayed daily, sometimes hourly, for God to give me a heart of love, mercy, and forgiveness toward my betrayers. Every time a negative thought came to mind, I would make myself say out loud something positive, even if I could only find one good thing about that person. At first, I failed the forgiveness test more times than I passed. But the more I practiced blessing rather than cursing the person, the more I noticed a change in me. Finally, forgiveness came.

Second, keep your focus on Him. I have found that if my focus is on Jesus Christ, pleasing Him, loving Him and being obedient to Him, then I am much less apt to worry about the character-destroying spears being hurled at me. An important key to staying this course is to stay out of the path of the spear thrower, and work diligently to not let them draw you back into their web.

And third, you are commanded - not urged nor suggested, but ordered - to love this person. As it says in Luke 6:32, “But what credit is it to you if you love those who love you, for even sinners love those who love them.” Try this; love your enemy because He loves them, and this pleases Him for you to love them.

Concerning King David, he was under Old Testament law, regarding an “eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.” But with Jesus’ death on the cross, all of us entered a new covenant which commands forgiveness. If David were alive today, he would be offering mercy and grace rather than seeking Old Testament vengeance.

Connie, I can tell you first hand, if you follow these three truths faithfully, you will have a healthier perspective on future difficult relationships.